Over a month ago, I was in a group intuitive reading session with a woman, trying to offer her advice around living her life in alignment with her heart and soul agreements. For protecting her identity, I won’t share her real name, but let’s refer to her as Carla. If you have ever had an intuitive reading done, you know that the readers or guides are able to receive and interpret messages based on the images received during meditation. After leveraging a variety of sensory experiences, readers are then able to interpret the messages and convey them to the readee.
As I started meditating and zoning into Carla’s energetic space, several images popped up in my head. I was able to see that she has a beautiful soul essence, a big heart and very loving demeanor. She is a highly accomplished professional who is driven and goal oriented. At the same time, she is supportive and encouraging of the people around her. She enjoys living a healthy lifestyle and challenging herself. She takes on a variety of adventure sports, including mountain climbing, hiking and running. I also saw her love life being rekindled as there was a new love interest at that time, which seemed exciting to me.
As I zoned in further, I saw a huge, well maintained, mansion-like house with its lights turned on. Within the home, I saw a middle-aged woman standing over her kitchen counter feeling in control of her emotions, but very lonely. She seemed wealthy and had all the comforts of life at her disposal. However, I sensed the feeling of acute loneliness that she was feeling resulted from a conscious decision to keep people around her at a distance. When I dug deeper, I found that there was a lot of past hurt she was carrying in her heart. As human beings, when we get wounded, our first natural reaction is to cover that wound to avoid any further hurt. Similarly, Carla experienced enough hurt in the past that she ended up creating boundaries around her so that no one would be able to get close to her and have the opportunity to cause more pain and suffering. Cutting vicious people out from our lives seems like a practical and a logical choice of the mind, but ultimately it is not in alignment with our truth. Here is why –
Conflicts and heartbreaks cause pain and our natural reaction is to make those wounds go away. Unfortunately, our suffering is reconciled through growth and not by un-doing what was done in the past. When the deep healing takes place, things don’t ever go back to the previous state. Through healing, we gain a new perspective and expansion in our ability to experience our divinity. As Rumi said, “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” When we are in pain, we dread our situation and seek to avoid the heavy feelings that go with it. Over time, our hearts become hardened and we guard it feverishly from any one getting too close. However, the ‘light’ only enters when we let go of our resistances. When we truly welcome our feelings, however harsh they may be and allow our hearts to soften, that is when we truly heal from within.
It is natural to feel pain. When we avoid or suppress our pain, it becomes difficult to remain balanced and to be at peace. On the other hand, when we face our suffering, we enhance our ability to be more stable. However, it can only happen when we let go of our previous notion of balance, our old identity and outdated plans. Acceptance and reconciliation happens when we come back home to ourselves and to our hearts. Instead of looking for fixes externally, true healing takes place internally when we accept and go through our emotions. At the core of every conflict is a lesson for us to soften our hearts and love others from the greater depths of our being. As ironic as it sounds, our pain is the source of our solution and can help us to become more loving individuals. It is when our hearts are completely ‘broken’ open that we may love more fully without conditions or restraints.
Who we run into during our lives is not a co-incidence. Our souls have signed contracts with each other so that we could be catalysts for each other’s growth and progress together on the path of spiritual enlightenment. It is optimal for our growth that we are surrounded by people with a variety of thoughts, lifestyles and personalities. This set-up creates the perfect opportunity for us to learn and respect every viewpoint while practicing unconditional love for all. The conflicts with our loved ones don’t feel good in the moment, but they uncover a great deal of information around our judgments towards ourselves and others. If we bring our awareness to these judgments and proactively release them, we could expand pretty quickly. So the next time you are in conflict with anyone, please thank them as they are simply playing their part in your expansion.
We all are a part of collective higher consciousness energy. Cutting people off from our lives not only slows down our growth, but it also doesn’t allow our heart to soften up. This self created seclusion disturbs the natural growth process. Unfortunately, until these underlying lessons are reconciled and worked upon, they manifest in different ways in our lives and through different people. As you can guess, there is no escaping from learning the right lessons.
In my reading for this lovely woman, I found that in order for her to experience internal joy and happiness, she will have to allow others to come close to her. She found a great man and for this relationship to work well, she would have to fully open her heart to him. At the time of the reading, she felt lonely and abandoned and this feeling is unnecessary. Her unresolved fears and insecurities kept manifesting through this feeling of abandonment. For her to live a life in alignment, it would be best for her to resolve her fears, insecurities and let go of the past hurt. This work will not be easy and would require a great deal of courage, but the result in the end will be really sweet and worth her time and effort.
This is not just Carla’s life story. This is the story for many of us. I know I lived a big chunk of my life protecting my heart by keeping it closed to others. When I eventually went through a transformation, I felt much more ALIVE and lighter. I was able to build more heart-based relationships all around and experienced bliss in sharing myself with others. My heart and soul blossomed so beautifully. And because my energy changed, I noticed a shift in everyone’s energy around me.
Old negative emotions, energies, old memories, past traumas, etc. are a huge obstacle in living a life of alignment. Many times, the old stress and hurt that we experience is stored within our cells and gets manifested in the form of physical ailments. If you are carrying any hurt in your heart, I highly encourage you to allow yourself the proper healing that you deserve. The real transformation starts from within!
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