Almost five years ago, I met this random guy online by the moniker ‘true_self’. I read his honest profile and he read mine. We both felt this unexplainable compatibility right away. He initiated the connection via email and as a conversation starter, asked me a question. His exact words were - “It’s indicated on your profile that you're a positive person. What's your secret for maintaining that? :)” I was surprised by the intensity of his question, but appreciated him for being open and wanting to know me at a deeper level. Usually people hide behind huge walls in the world of online dating, therefore, his note felt very real and refreshing. Being single at the age of 30, I was thinking to myself at that time...good that he is authentic and open. Well, aint’t nobody got time to fool around anyways! ;-)
You must be curious to know how I responded to his question. Here is the exact verbatim – “I think my soul is full of positive energy and strength by default so it is relatively easier for me to maintain positivity even in the most adverse circumstances. I do get upset when things don't go per the plan (yeah, haven't been able to detach myself from the results yet), but never turn negative about the situation or my future. This is just the beginning; I have a long way to go to uncover my spiritual side. :)”
This random guy who I met online five years ago is now my husband. Whenever I am reminded of our first conversation, I feel overwhelmed by his courage and the sweetness of our interaction. These memories always bring a big smile on my face and make my heart full of love and gratitude for him. However, I do end up reflecting on my answer at times. I realize that my response was honest, but driven off of ignorance and unknowingness. At that time, my definition of happiness was simply being happy on the outside and not really paying attention to the emotions and discontent on the inside. If I am asked the same question now, my answer would be completely different. I now define happiness as being in alignment with my Truth and living and breathing it every day.
After building much inner awareness and going through several waves of transformation over the last few years, I have to admit that staying positive is not as easy as it once used to be. Aligning myself to my inner truth is a much more challenging task. How I approach it now is as follows. Please note that these are not sequential steps, but rather broader themes that feed into each other and work collectively.
For those who may be curious to know how I meditate - there is no set time or frequency of my practice. Sometimes, I meditate for an hour and a half a day, split into morning and evening sessions. On other days, I meditate for 30-45 minutes once a day. While there are some days I don’t get a chance to meditate at all. It all depends on what feels right in my heart in that moment and day.
After working with some great teachers, I’ve learned to focus my attention on the center of my head (third eye chakra - intersection between eyebrows and my ears) and to simply watch my breath. For maintaining spiritual hygiene, I ground my aura and energetic body to get rid of any foreign energies. I also clean my energy points by running cosmic and earth energies. Finally, if my mind is plagued by any negative thought that day, I set the intention and release it from my space through visualization. During the remaining time, I simply watch my thoughts and bring my attention back to the breath from the center of my head.
Even though I consider myself as a beginner, the daily practice of meditation has been life changing for me. I highly recommend it, even if you are able to do it for 5 minutes a day. Hope you enjoy connecting with your inner self as much as I do. :)
Food for thought: How do you maintain a positive attitude, especially during challenging times? If you feel inspired to share, please comment on this post.
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