This morning, I was in a reading session with a woman who we can refer to as Anita. A quick scan on her energies uncovered her beautiful spiritual essence. As I dug deeper, I found her to be an older aged soul with a good understanding of the physical world around her. Her energy indicated that she possesses a vibrant personality and makes friends easily. As I took a closer look at her communication style, I discovered that she prefers to communicate in a short and pointed way with a touch of humor and sarcasm embedded in it. People adore her and they want to spend time with her primarily because she has this unique ability to lighten the atmosphere by infusing smiles and laughter. Many times her friends would feel down and when they reach out to Anita, they feel better instantly. Overall, Anita is one of those rare personalities who have a unique gift of picking people up when they are down, brightening their days within seconds.
We would expect that someone who seems so positive and fun would be living a fulfilled life. Wrong! We never really know what goes on behind people’s laughter as it could be a mask covering their pain. Perhaps it is a good way to deflect everyone’s attention from their pain and life problems. This notion is similar Robin Williams’ life story. He had the gift of making so many people laugh through his comedy, yet behind that vibrant personality there was a lot of suffering, which eventually led him to cut his life short by suicide.
When I zoned into Anita’s past life from a few lifetimes ago, I saw her in England. She was wearing a light pink colored blouse with a long flowy brown skirt and a hat covering her head. With a petite frame and sparkly eyes, she looked lovely. She appeared soft, attractive and very feminine – the kind of woman every man would be pleased to have by his side. She seemed to be in her early twenties at that time. On a warm and sunny day, I saw her walking on a field with lush green grass looking magnificently like a princess. There was excitement in her eyes and a heartwarming smile on her lips. She was in love and was on her way to meet her prince charming. Not just figuratively, but the man she loved was the prince of the providence that she lived in. They met and had a great time.
As I fast forwarded her story, I saw her getting pregnant and the prince breaking up with her. He was adamant and refused to support both her and the child. Her family didn’t support her either. This turn of events was devastating but somehow she gathered courage to deliver the child. Years passed and I saw a young boy of 8-9 years holding her hand and lovingly taking her to places. This child was yearning for her love and attention. However, Anita’s energy was stuck in the past. She could not get over the betrayal that she faced from the prince. As hard as it was to be a single parent; this emotional block was not allowing her to feel alive. Not only she was depressed, she felt completely lifeless during the course of her existence. If it weren’t for her child, she would’ve committed suicide a long time ago.
Anita’s past life situation was important to understand as the lingering emotions from the past were causing challenges in her present lifetime. Betrayal is tough to accept, but in order to feel alive again, this energy of grief needs to be released immediately. Otherwise, this emotional block will continue to be with her in future lifetimes until it is actively worked upon and released.
When we are hit by betrayal and hold that grief in our heart, we feel intense pain. But this pain is unnecessary as change is inevitable. The more we cling on to a state or person, the more we will experience pain when that state passes away. As souls, we are designed to be fluid, our energies are always flowing from one situation to another. Our very basic existence in this human form is also temporary. We do not remain in this body forever. Depending on your religious beliefs, the cycle of birth and death is a perfect example of that. If we get too attached with holding an idea or state as permanent, we will end up suffering because this degree of permanence is non-existent.
The prince who came in Anita’s life had lessons to teach her per the pre-existing soul contract they had in place before even taking birth. As souls, we choose relationships and family ties based on the lessons that we wish to learn in the human form. Anita and her prince co-created a perfect set-up for her to embrace and grow. There is of course free will, but these soul agreements often run out of time when the lessons are complete. We always have other more relevant lessons to learn based on our current spiritual state and hence, it is important to move on. When the prince’s purpose in Anita’s life was fulfilled, it was time for him to shift his attention on to the other contracts and relationships in his life.
Neither can we control these lessons nor their timing. We cannot hold on to any specific experience till perpetuity. In this ever changing life, our biggest spiritual lesson is to accept the changes around us. The most important purpose is to stay joyful while constantly adjusting our identity in this physical world.
After betrayal, a part of our mind derives comfort in feeling like a victim, whereas another part feels confused and wonders why this injustice ever happened to them. Usually our mind will either replay the story of proving itself right or feel guilt of not doing something that could’ve been done. In her past life, Anita often thought if she could have done anything to avoid this rejection from the prince. She felt guilty and inadequate for being rejected by her man. Her self esteem took a big hit and her confidence was completely damaged in this situation.
The big reason for feeling this pain is our own attachment to the outcome. When reality differs from our expectations, a discrepancy is created within our mind. This discrepancy is perceived as hurt and pain. When we experience grief, our ego keeps reminding itself of this discrepancy, which brings more pain and hurt to us.
Things would be a lot simpler if we cared more about experiences than people. The best way to deal with grief is to not look at it as a loss of a person, but as a gain of important lessons and experiences, which were required for our optimal growth. No one can take these experiences away from us. No one can deny us the growth that we deserved to receive.
In her past lifetime, the best thing that Anita could’ve done is to let go the pain attached to betrayal and opened herself to new opportunities and lessons. She sought love and partnership in her life, and even though she couldn’t receive it from the prince, she could’ve attracted a better relationship from someone else. In doing so, there was a strong chance that the universe would’ve queued her up with the right person and she wouldn’t have to spent her entire life feeling stuck, betrayed and lonely.
At this point, Anita should take her past life lesson in stride and move forward in life. I recommend meditating everyday for a few minutes with an intention of resolving her past emotions around betrayal. It is important for her to cleanse her space and let go of the energies that don’t serve her right. She should also begin opening herself to others and trust that her friends won’t reject her based on that genuine interaction. She has a lot to offer to any man and she is deserving of a fulfilling relationship. For all these amazing wishes to materialize, Anita will have to carry a higher energetic vibration, let go of internal resistances and intently set the desire. As much as Anita felt like a victim across several lifetimes, she must remember that she is always empowered to make choices in alignment with the desires of her heart.
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