Last week was an interesting one. As the United States was bombarded by the snow storm Jonas on the east coast and El Nino fueled rain on the west coast, I was busy diagnosing tornados in the lives of my clients. Both storms were powerful, yet quite opposite at their core. Similarly, the life situations of my readees were deeply related, yet different in nature. Once you read more about their stories, I can guarantee that you can’t help but smile at the co-incidences that this week brought in.
In the past, I had done a lot of work on myself to deeply embrace my femininity. Prior to the readings last week, I did some more energetic work in order to channel and align my feminine energy further. Being women, we have many societal pressures of shouldering responsibilities of everyone around us, managing relationships flawlessly, along with being perfect mothers and wives. My work focused on letting go of these gender based expectations and “shoulds”, while opening up my heart as well in that process. The idea was to offer validation and compassion to myself for being a woman in this world who defines and follows her own path.
In doing this work on myself, I was pleasantly surprised to encounter two clients that were in a similar stage in their lives. It’s amazing how the Universe matches us up with exactly who we need to connect with in every moment.
My first readee was a woman in her late thirties. Let’s call her Maria. The first impression I got from her was that she is very beautiful, feminine and bestowed with a big heart. I saw Maria being in the nursing profession, fully utilizing her softer personality traits to provide care and nurturing to heal people around her. At home, she perfectly played the role of an affectionate mother to her children.
When I zoned into Maria’s life lessons, I saw a past life emerging from a few lifetimes ago. The scene began in UK where I saw her inside a castle in a room with modest interior. She was lying on a bed and crying her heart out around midnight her local time. She was a mistress of a king. The king was affectionate towards her, mainly because she was capable of providing him comfort and solace whenever he felt the need. It didn’t bother Maria that she wasn’t the queen. It didn’t even seem like she was in love with this king. However, she felt that she was good enough and felt validated every time she was able to help the king. In return, the king provided her space to live and food to eat. It was the perfect arrangement, yet it didn’t make her happy. Her emotional needs were unmet and she shared no sense of belonging with the king and the rest of the people around her. Ultimately she lacked fulfillment and felt empty inside, yet she was hesitant to share her thoughts with the king. She was afraid that the king may not like hearing her honest opinion. She felt frustrated with her own self in not being able to speak her mind and to walk out of this situation. Even if she did express her desire, what would she do with her life? Where would she go and how would she restart her life without any support from anyone? As these questions were popping in her mind, I could sense her feeling scared and insecure.
This was an eye opening and powerful realization. Maria had so much strength when it came to taking care of the people around her. However, she was struggling to find her own ground and choose a life that’s joyful and fulfilling. Her life lesson during that lifetime was to exercise power and courage to create a life that she truly desired. Instead of finding the sense of worthiness externally, if she took the opportunity to turn inwards and find it within herself, her insecurities would have turn into confidence and boosted her self-esteem. In this lifetime, Maria’s lesson continues. Now that she’s aware of all the work that needs to be done, I am sure it will be relatively easier for her to reinstate the command of her life, without feeling weak like a victim.
My second readee was a woman as well. I’ll refer to her as Linda. She is in her late forties. She is married and feels very strong and empowered internally. When I scanned her energies, I saw an exotic bird feeling lost in jungle on a dark night. The bird was new and was trying to find a home, but she couldn’t. This imagery showed that Linda feels like she is misfit in the world around her. There is a minimal sense of belonging in her environment and as a result Linda usually keeps to herself. I realized that a lot of this energy in her life emerges from the judgments she experienced from her parents. She has been carrying emotions of shame and guilt in her heart since childhood. Most of this was caused by her non-acceptance of herself as a woman and rigid gender-based standards set by her parents. Her mother, especially, held strong beliefs that being a woman Linda should act and carry herself in a certain way. At the soul level, Linda’s mother was simply trying to point out that Linda needs to embrace her femininity more deeply and let go of this feeling of non-acceptance. As a result, whenever Linda was unable to meet those expectations as a child, she felt judged and criticized. Every child yearns for love and acceptance from their parents. Not having a supportive environment to grow in made Linda question her existence and withdraw from the people around her. Moreover, growing up Linda didn’t have a good female role model to look up to who lives her life feeling empowered. Therefore, in her mind, she held on to many negative connotations related to being a woman and hated herself for being a woman.
As I put my intuitive skills to practice further, I saw Linda in her past lifetime. She appeared to be an army sergeant in Europe during the 16th century. She was an extremely beautiful and attractive woman, but she chose to hide her beauty underneath a military uniform. In those days, women were usually homemakers. Their roles were confined to the cooking, taking care of the children and keeping their men happy. However, Linda was a rebel, to break all the rules to follow her passion to fight in the battlefield. I saw her commanding the army to fight and then getting caught by the enemy after losing the war. At first, the enemy’s army was dumbfounded to see a woman fighting against them. Later, I saw men making mild sexual advances towards her. Linda was an attractive woman, but she despised any male attention. She detested being a woman overall. She was born with a female body, but she hated embracing her softness. In all aspects of life, she felt most comfortable exercising her masculine energy to act from a place of power and control.
This past life scenario was critical for me to understand the lessons applicable in Linda’s current life. As I dug deeper, I realized that she was facing challenges in her existing marriage. Her strong masculine energy overpowers and creates an imbalance in her marriage. It’s confusing for her partner to step into his masculine energy when he’s not given space to do so. This was disturbing the peace within her family. The beauty within marriage overall is that two people can co-create an amazing life together. For Linda, the more she is able to embrace her femininity, the more the male-female balance will be restored and will improve the overall chemistry of her relationship.
Coming to Alignment with Femininity
Both of my readees shared the same core issue, but were on the opposite ends of the spectrum scale. If they ever met, both ladies could learn a lot from each other. While Linda doesn’t take pride in being a woman, Maria deeply embraces her femininity. When Maria struggles with exercising her inner power, Linda can most definitely teach her how to follow her passion and be a go getter in life.
Cultural conditioning, society pressure, gender expectations, family rules etc. don’t matter when any woman finds her passion and true calling in life. It is Maria’s life and she is absolutely free to live it the way she would like. She is not responsible for the happiness and well being of others. Therefore, she doesn’t have to worry about how others will react when she follows the path of her desires and needs.
Linda could learn from Maria’s example, which will help her to release the negative connotations that are associated with being a woman. Being a woman doesn’t mean feeling weak and powerless. Being a woman actually means having tremendous strength to follow your dreams and desires. If you are real, genuine and unapologetic in accepting yourself, the right people will respect you for it. There are plenty of women leaders who have retained their softness, yet created an impeccable impact on the people around them in a powerful way. Mother Teresa is one such example. Without giving birth to a single child, she mothered thousands of people who benefited from her nurturing and care.
As much as we try believing men and women are equal, they are not. I truly believe that women are blessed with their own unique and innate strengths, which are complementary to that of a man. Diane Mariechild said, 'A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform.' In Hinduism as well, it is believed that every woman is Shakti (aka God’s feminine power). When women claim their power and magnificence, they channelize God’s power of creation. This is not just being able to give birth to children, but also includes the ability to create divine nurturing relationships through their natural gift of love. Women are incredibly powerful beings, more so emotionally than physically. We are blessed with a tremendous amount of courage and innate intuition. I write this with a lot of humility that women have an enormous effect on the men around them. Throughout history, we have seen examples where either women have inspired men to greatness or led them to their doom.
Therefore, as women it is our responsibility to stop comparing ourselves and fighting for equality with men. Instead, the true joy lies in embracing our inner femininity, recognizing our divine Shakti and claiming our own internal power. It is also important to build right awareness to find our inner balance and not be in either extreme when it comes to embracing our gender based energy. When this happens, there is no need to play in a man’s game, because our game is completely different and has much greater rewards. As women when we come into alignment with our femininity, we’ll realize what an amazing blessing it is to be who we are. Embracing ourselves will allow us to bring the full manifestation of our power into this world and therefore we won’t be compared to men, but rather be respected for the women we exist to be.
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